Receiving anger, responding 'politely': How to handle aggression when exploring whiteness

This is just an open heart stream of consciousness I share with how I am trying to figure out how to deal with the anger and passive aggressiveness I receive, as a black female who engages in intellectual inquiries about race, whiteness, and colonialism. It’s not so much about the online comments and emails I receive as much as I’m interested in how to handle these situations when I’m in a physical location, like after I have given a lecture, or if I’m in a class and a peer or professor displays overtly angry, or passive-aggressive responses to my critical inquiries.